Radical Candor Book Summary
Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity
Book by Kim Malone Scott
Summary
Radical Candor is a management philosophy that emphasizes caring personally about your team while also challenging them directly, creating a culture of feedback, trust and high performance.
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Radical Candor - Saying What You Think While Also Giving A Damn
Radical Candor involves both "caring personally" and "challenging directly." Caring personally means giving a damn about people, not just professionally but personally. Challenging directly means being willing to say what you really think, even if it's uncomfortable. By combining these two dimensions, you create Radical Candor - the ability to give guidance and feedback in a way that challenges people directly while also showing you care.
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The "Um" Story - How Direct Feedback Can Be An Act Of Caring
Early in her career at Google, the author's boss Sheryl Sandberg pulled her aside after a presentation. She complimented the author's intellect and ability to see both sides of an argument. But then Sheryl told her very directly "you said 'um' a lot in there. Were you aware of it?" The direct feedback made the author aware of how much she was saying "um" and motivated her to work with a speech coach to improve. This demonstrated how giving direct, even uncomfortable, feedback can be an act of caring when done with good intent.
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Manipulative Insincerity - What Happens When You Neither Care Nor Challenge
The opposite of Radical Candor is Manipulative Insincerity - this is what happens when you neither care about a person nor challenge them directly. It's praise that is insincere and not specific, or criticism that is neither clear nor kind. People give praise or criticism from a place of Manipulative Insincerity when they are too focused on being liked, or when they are too tired to care or argue anymore. But guidance that comes from this place tends to be confusing and unhelpful for the recipient.
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Radical Candor Is Relative To The Recipient
An important insight about Radical Candor is that it is measured at the listener's ear, not the speaker's mouth. What feels like Radical Candor to one person may feel aggressive or insensitive to another. You have to tailor your approach to the individual and also to their cultural context.
- For an Israeli team she worked with, the author found that very blunt, almost confrontational feedback was accepted as Radical Candor. But that same style was offensive to a team in Tokyo, so she had to adjust to a style of "polite persistence" to challenge them while still showing respect.
- The takeaway is you can't just memorize some
Radically Candid phrases to use. You have to build a relationship and understand what works for each individual to challenge them while also showing you care.
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At Apple, A Culture Of Criticism Coupled With Deep Respect
The author observed the culture at Apple involved intense, direct debate and criticism, but always done with a foundation of deep respect. Steve Jobs invited people to tell him when he was wrong, insisting they challenge his ideas. He wanted people's genuine opinions, even if they disagreed with his.
But while the criticism was very direct, it was coupled with real personal caring and respect. Jobs would explain why someone's work was not good enough and articulate why, but would also emphasize that any criticism was not fundamentally calling their abilities into question. This demonstrated a culture of Radical Candor - direct challenge coupled with real personal caring. The respect and personal caring made the direct criticism and debate possible.
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Guidance - The Atomic Building Block Of Management
Radically Candid relationships enable good guidance - praise and criticism that is kind, clear, specific and sincere. Guidance is the "atomic building block" of being a good boss. To be successful:
- Bosses have to want to give guidance
- Bosses have to be able to give it effectively
- Employees have to be eager to receive guidance
If any of these three are missing, an organization will collapse.
The chapter explores how to get guidance as a boss, give it to your employees, and encourage it across the whole team.
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Provide Guidance Immediately, Directly, And In Person
When providing guidance or feedback to employees, follow these key tips:
- Do it immediately: The longer you wait between noticing a behavior and commenting on it, the less effective the feedback will be. Don't save up criticism.
- Do it in person: Feedback is most effective when done in person, where you can see the person's facial expressions and body language and respond accordingly. If you can't do it in person, do it live over video chat, or worst case, phone. Never give important feedback over email/text if you can avoid it.
- Criticize in private and praise in public: A good rule of thumb is to provide criticism in a 1:1 setting, while providing praise in a group/public setting. This shows respect for the individual and also helps the positive example spread.
- Don't personalize: Make the feedback about the work/behavior, not the individual. Point to specific actions and impacts vs. making it about the person's immutable traits.
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Rethinking Ambition - Not Everyone Wants To "Climb The Ladder"
Too often as managers, we assume that everyone on our team wants to be on a steep growth trajectory and be promoted as quickly as possible. But the reality is that not everyone wants the next bigger job right now. At different phases of life and career, people may be very content and fulfilled in their current role. Pushing them toward promotions they don't want leads to unhappiness.
The author calls this the difference between "rock stars" and "superstars." Superstars are always gunning for the next big role. Rock stars are excellent at their current job and find fulfillment there. Organizations need both. If you promote a rock star into a role they don't want, you lose them. If you fail to keep giving a superstar new challenges, you lose them.
As a manager, you have to get to know each individual, understand what their current ambitions and motivations are, and manage them accordingly. Don't impose a one-size-fits-all idea of ambition.
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Manage The Person, Not Just The "Talent"
"For many bosses, 'recognition' means 'promotion.' But this is a big mistake in most cases. Promotion often puts these people in roles they are not as well-suited for or don't want. The key is to recognize their contribution in other ways. It may be a bonus or a raise. Or, if they like public speaking, get them to present at your all-hands meetings... If they like teaching, get them to help new people learn their roles faster. Or if they are shy, make sure you and others on the team thank them privately for the work they do. Consider, carefully, tenure awards."
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Avoid The "Peter Principle" When Promoting
The "Peter Principle," based on the book by Laurence J. Peter, is the concept that in a hierarchy, people tend to rise to "their level of incompetence." In other words, people keep getting promoted as long as they are competent in their role. But there eventually comes a role they are no longer excellent at - and they stay stuck there. This happens frequently when excellent individual contributors are promoted into management roles they may not be well suited for or truly want.
Pushing people into roles they aren't suited for just for the sake of promotion does both them and the organization a disservice. Managers need to be thoughtful about what roles people will truly thrive and excel in vs. just what seems like the logical "next step."
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Identifying "Rock Stars" Vs. "Superstars" On Your Team
To identify who are the "rock stars" (gradual growth trajectory) vs. "superstars" (steep growth trajectory) on your team, plot each team member on a 2x2 matrix with performance and growth trajectory as the two axes.
- People who are excellent performers and on a gradual growth trajectory are your rock stars. Think about what you can do to recognize and reward them in their current role.
- People who are excellent performers and on a steep growth trajectory are your superstars. Think about how you can keep challenging them and create opportunities for them to grow.
- People who are poor performers and on a steep growth trajectory need coaching, training, and role adjustment. Perhaps they have been miscast in their current role.
- People who are poor performers and on a gradual growth trajectory may need to be let go. If they aren't doing well now and show no signs of improving, they are dragging the team down.
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People Change, So Should Your Management Of Them
An important nuance is that individuals will likely move between gradual and steep growth trajectories over the course of their career as their life circumstances and priorities change.
For example, the author describes having an aspiring Olympic athlete on her team at Google. Right out of college, this woman was training intensely and so wanted a more gradual growth trajectory at work. But a few years later, when her athletic goals changed, her career ambition kicked into high gear and she started seeking much more challenge and growth from her job.
As a manager, you can't put a person into a category of "rock star" or "superstar" and expect them to stay there permanently. Check in frequently, look for signs that priorities are shifting, and adjust your management style accordingly. Be responsive to the individual in front of you, not who they used to be or who you assume they should be.
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To Get Things Done, Don't Tell People What To Do
A common mistake bosses make is thinking their job is to tell people what to do. But unilateral decision making without input and buy-in doesn't work well, especially with today's knowledge workers. People need to be influenced and inspired, not just ordered around.
The author learned this the hard way when she first joined Google and tried to reorganize her team without getting their input first. Her directives were met with resentment and pushback, and several people left the team. She realized she had to shift to a more collaborative approach.
Even leaders known for top-down authority like Steve Jobs succeeded not by ordering people around, but by engaging in debate, soliciting input, and convincingly explaining decisions. Telling people what to do doesn't work, even if you're the boss. Bosses have to learn to influence and facilitate rather than dictate.
Section: 1, Chapter: 4
The "Get Stuff Done" (GSD) Wheel - A Framework For Collaborative Execution
To drive results collaboratively, use the 6-step "Get Stuff Done" or GSD Wheel framework:
- Listen - Hear the ideas and concerns of your team. Create space for people to share their views without fear.
- Clarify - Make sure everyone is on the same page about what ideas actually mean. Don't let ambiguity linger.
- Debate - Critically examine ideas from all angles. Encourage a culture of debate and information-sharing.
- Decide - Commit to decisions and communicate them broadly and clearly. But don't rush to consensus if there isn't one.
- Persuade - Once a decision is made, explain the rationale in a way that gets buy-in, even from those who disagreed. Make it safe to disagree but not to opt out.
- Execute - Get the decided-upon work done. Remove barriers and hold people accountable. Ensure there is time and space to execute.
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Deciding How To Decide - Elevating Key Debates And Decisions
Not every decision needs to go through the full GSD wheel - that would take too long. As a leader, your job is to "decide how to decide" - identify decisions that need more discussion vs. those that should be made quickly by an individual. To do this:
- Push decisions into the facts wherever possible - empower those closest to the work to make the call
- For bigger, high-stakes decisions, pull the facts into the decision - make sure there is clarity on the situation before deciding
- Separate "debate" meetings from "decision" meetings to allow enough time for input without rushing to consensus
- Explicitly clarify who the "decider" is on key decisions - is it you? Someone else? A group vote? Empower others to decide while breaking ties yourself when needed.
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Management Is Emotional Labor
At the core of being a good boss is building trusting relationships with each direct report. This is hard, emotionally-draining work, not just logistical or administrative. It requires a substantial amount of emotional labor.
Early in her career, the author made the mistake of viewing this emotional labor as a distraction from "real work." But her coach admonished her: "It's not babysitting...It's called management, and it's your job!" Over time, she realized that having 1:1 conversations, getting to know people personally, and being emotionally present was some of the most valuable and important work she did as a leader. It wasn't a distraction from the job, it was the essence of the job. Bosses have to embrace, not begrudge, the emotional labor of leadership.
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Relinquishing Authority And Control
One of the biggest blockers to building trusting relationships with direct reports is an unwillingness to give up unilateral authority and control. Using your power and authority to make others do your bidding feels good in the moment but erodes trust over time. A few tips:
- Look for small ways to give your team more autonomy - let them set the agenda for 1:1s, pick their own projects, etc. Show you trust their judgment.
- Delegate decisions - rather than being the decider on everything, empower others to make important calls. Make your role more facilitative than directive.
- Share more context and information - be transparent about what you know and where you're coming from vs. hoarding information to yourself. It enables others to make good decisions.
- Don't micromanage - once you've delegated something, resist the urge to constantly check up on it or override decisions. Let go of control while still being accountable.
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Impromptu Guidance - The Best Feedback Is In The Moment
The most effective feedback isn't the formal review or scheduled 1:1. It's the in-the-moment, impromptu guidance that happens in real time. When you see someone doing something well, tell them right away. The more continuous and less episodic your feedback is, the more natural and effective it will be.
There are a few keys to impromptu guidance:
- Timing - Give the feedback as close to the observed event as possible. The fresher, the better.
- Specificity - Point to specific actions and impacts you observed vs. vague generalities. The more concrete your feedback, the more actionable it is.
- Brevity - Don't belabor the point or make it a long discussion. Just say what you observed and the impact, check for their reaction, and move on.
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Bias, Gender, And The "Abrasive" Trap
Studies have shown that the more competent a woman is perceived to be, the less likeable she is found to be. This plays out in performance reviews, where women tend to get much more critical feedback about their personality and communication style than men do. Women are much more likely to be labeled as "abrasive", "judgmental" or "strident" when they assert themselves or challenge others directly. As a manager, it's important to be aware of this bias. A few tips:
- Evaluate your feedback for gendered language - are you using words like "abrasive", "bossy", or "aggressive" with women more than men?
- Consider the individual's context - is this a woman in a role/field where she is a minority? Is she being held to an unfair double standard?
- Focus on actions and impacts, not personality - give feedback on specific behaviors and results rather than vague judgments of character. Base assessments on facts.
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Career Conversations - Helping People Achieve Their Dreams
Beyond regular 1:1s, it's important to have periodic "career conversations" to understand what really motivates and inspires your direct reports. Recommend doing these annually and focusing on three key areas:
- Life story - What have been the high and low points in their life and career? What are they proud of and what was challenging? Look for patterns in what drives them.
- Dreams - If nothing was holding them back, what would they want to achieve in the next 5-10 years? Have them describe 3-5 different dream scenarios.
- 18 month plan - Based on their dreams, what skills and experiences do they need to gain in the next 18 months? Make a concrete action plan. The goal is to really listen and draw out what matters to the person, not impose your own view of what their career path should be. Then look for ways to align their work with their long-term aspirations as much as you can.
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Hiring For Fit, Not Just Skills
Hiring well is one of the biggest levers you have in building a great team. A few tips:
- Create a hiring rubric, not just a job description - Define not just the skills required but the values and behaviors needed for team and cultural fit. Make them specific enough to evaluate against.
- Ask candidates to complete a practical exercise - See their actual work product vs. just trusting a resume. Give them a sample project and evaluate the results.
- Include multiple perspectives - Have a panel do the interviews, not just the hiring manager. Get diverse input on a candidate's potential fit.
- Check references - Ask references specific questions about the person's past behaviors and performance, not just generic info.
- Do informal interviews - Take the candidate to lunch or on a walk. Give them a chance to let their guard down and show their true personality.
Skills are necessary but not sufficient. Drill down on culture and values as much as technical capabilities.
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Meetings That Don't Suck
Meetings are one of the biggest drains on time and energy at most companies. A few tips to make them more productive:
- Have a consistent agenda - For staff meetings, focus first on learning (key metrics), then listening (progress updates), then clarifying next steps. Don't mix everything together.
- Don't solve problems in the room - The staff meeting isn't the place for deep problem-solving. Identify issues, then spin them off to separate "Big Debate" or "Big Decision" meetings with the right stakeholders.
- Time-box everything - Give each agenda item a time limit and move on when you hit it. Don't let conversations meander just to fill the hour.
- Empower the meeting owner - Make it clear who is running the meeting and give them authority to keep things on track. Rotate owners to build skills. Meetings should be a place to get in sync, make decisions, and clarify next steps - not a free-for-all conversation.
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Keeping A "Finger On The Pulse" As You Scale
As your team grows, you can't be in every meeting or every room. A few ways to keep your finger on the pulse as you scale:
- Walk around - Block time each week to walk the floor and check in with people beyond your direct reports. Ask them what they're working on and how it's going.
- Actually use the products - Don't just read reports about customer experience. Use your own products and see what the experience is really like. Compare it to competitors.
- Read raw feedback - Review raw survey data, support tickets, and other feedback directly. See problems as they come in vs. in aggregate.
- Keep coding/selling/designing - Stay close to the actual work of your team vs. just managing.
The closer you are to the front lines, the more you'll understand. Your goal is to "smell the smoke" of problems when they're still small vs. waiting until they become full-blown fires. The more directly you experience the work, the faster you can sense when things are off track.
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Build A Culture Of Winning AND Losing
"It's not enough to create a culture where people love what they do and love the people they work with. If you do all that without achieving results, it's not just pointless, it's dangerous. You'll attract people who are comfortable, not people who want to do something great. On the flip side, if you have a culture where achievement comes at the expense of human connection, you won't get the best results, because fear and loathing don't drive collaboration, creativity, or excellence. The trick is to marry cultural health and business excellence."
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