Tiny Experiments Book Summary
How to Live Freely in a Goal-Obsessed World
Book by Anne-Laure Le Cunff
Summary
Tiny Experiments offers not just practical tools to make sure your most vital work gets done, but a guide to reawakening your curiosity and drive in a noisy, busy, disaffected world, so that you can discover and pursue your most authentic ambitions while making a meaningful contribution.
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The Courage To Leave Your Dream Job
At 27, Anne-Laure Le Cunff resigned from her dream job at Google, a position that offered excellent pay, international travel, challenging work, and limitless career potential. Her resignation puzzled her manager, who asked, "Are you sure?" This seemingly irrational career move came after a health scare—a blood clot that required surgery—and a Christmas visit home where she realized she had become disconnected from herself.
Despite being trained to climb the corporate ladder with clearly mapped metrics for success, she found herself burned out, bored, and blindly pursuing predefined goals. The once-enthusiastic employee had lost touch with her natural curiosity and creative spirit that had driven her earlier adventures, including leaving her native France to study in Japan and later Canada.
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From One Linear Path To Another
After quitting Google, Le Cunff immediately jumped into what she calls "another kind of hyperfocused, outcome-driven pursuit"—founding a tech startup. Though initially successful, with her venture being highlighted in WIRED magazine as one of "the healthcare startups you need to know about," the company eventually failed to advance in its accelerator program.
This forced failure created space for reflection. Le Cunff describes this moment as liberating: "I admitted that I was lost. And that was the most liberating thought I'd ever had." Instead of immediately seeking another linear career path, she embraced the uncertainty and reconnected with her curiosity, following her interests to neuroscience studies and creating a blog where she committed to writing 100 articles in 100 workdays.
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The Value Of In-Between Spaces
Le Cunff introduces two contrasting responses to liminal spaces—those in-between territories where old rules no longer apply:
1. Response 1: Discomfort and fear - When faced with uncertainty, many react with anxiety, trying to escape or numb the experience, praying for someone else to take control.
2. Response 2: Delight and curiosity - An alternative response embraces the in-between state as an opportunity for exploration, relaxation, and discovery—engaging with new ideas or connecting with strangers.
This framework helps explain why uncertainty is so challenging: our brains are wired to quickly label situations as good or bad. Research shows uncertainty causes more stress than inevitable pain. When we don't know what's coming, we often fall back on defense mechanisms like cynicism, escapism, or perfectionism, abandoning both curiosity and ambition.
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Tools For The Experimental Life
The book offers a four-part framework for replacing linear models of success with an experimental model of growth:
1. Pact: Commit to curiosity - Get started by creating small experiments rather than setting rigid goals
2. Act: Practice mindful productivity - Keep going through sustainable approaches to work and rest
3. React: Collaborate with uncertainty - Stay flexible by viewing disruption as data rather than disaster
4. Impact: Grow with the world - Dream bigger by connecting with others and building in public
These tools collectively foster what Le Cunff calls "systematic curiosity"—a conscious commitment to inhabit the space between what you know and what you don't with interest and openness rather than fear and anxiety.
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Amelia Earhart's Experimental Life
Amelia Earhart, famous for being the first woman to fly solo across the Atlantic, actually took a far more experimental path than most history books record. Five years before her legendary solo flight, she accepted an offer to be a passenger (not pilot) on a transatlantic flight when another woman deemed it too risky. This first experience enabled her to gather resources for her later solo venture.
Beyond aviation, Earhart continually experimented in diverse fields. She worked as a telephone company clerk to fund her flying, started a portrait photography business, launched a trucking company, designed a functional women's clothing line, and became a university consultant supporting women in male-dominated fields. She even experimented in her personal life, telling her husband she wouldn't be bound by "any medieval code of faithfulness" in their marriage.
Earhart described "liking to experiment" as the common thread in her life—"the something inside me that has always liked to try new things." Her willingness to swerve repeatedly in pursuit of her ambitions made her life extraordinary.
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The Flaws Of Linear Goals
Traditional goal-setting approaches based on linear progression suffer from three major flaws:
1. Linear goals stimulate fear : Starting something new outside our comfort zone is daunting. Without expertise from experience, we're uncertain where to begin. The sheer number of options can lead to analysis paralysis, while concerns about qualifications, resources, or potential failure can trigger debilitating anxiety.
2. Linear goals encourage toxic productivity : Research shows many goals people pursue "may be merely justifications to keep themselves busy." This mindset creates an overly strict relationship with work where we believe missing any task will cause everything to collapse. We work while sick, cancel social plans, and feel guilty about breaks—creating a treadmill that leaves us mentally drained and paradoxically less productive.
3. Linear goals breed competition and isolation : When everyone climbs the same ladder, we become competitive for the wrong reasons, viewing potential collaborators as rivals. This isolating mentality prevents the pooling of resources and collaborative learning that could benefit our careers and communities.
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From Fixed Ladders To Growth Loops
Le Cunff proposes three mental shifts to move away from rigid linear goals:
1. From Response 1 to Response 2 : Shift from automatic anxiety-based reactions to uncertainty (Response 1) toward autonomous, agency-based engagement (Response 2). When you develop this skill, uncertainty transforms from something to escape into somewhere to explore. Instead of being a passive passenger, you become actively engaged in possibilities.
2. From fixed ladders to growth loops : Replace the mental model of linear progression up a ladder with iterative cycles of experimentation. Rather than focusing on predictable steps along a planned trajectory, widen each loop by nurturing creativity and exploring promising tangents instead of dismissing them as distractions.
3. From outcome to process : Move away from measuring success by achieving big, ambitious goals and toward defining progress through incremental experimentation. Success becomes an unfolding path rather than a fixed target, allowing change to become a source of reinvention rather than disruption.
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Ron Finley's Multiple Paths To Impact
Ron Finley began his career as a successful clothing designer who created collections sold in major retail stores across America. When recession struck and stores stopped calling, he unexpectedly found a new passion. Frustrated by living in a food desert where it was "easier to buy street drugs than organic tomatoes," he started growing fruits and vegetables on the strip of land between sidewalk and curb outside his house.
When cited for gardening without a permit, Finley fought back with a petition that ultimately changed Los Angeles law. His TED talk sparked the guerrilla gardening movement, positioning urban gardening as a revolutionary act against broken food systems. Today, his once-simple garden teems with pears, oranges, figs, pomegranates, and even banana trees.
Interestingly, Finley's gardening fame opened new doors for his fashion career, showing how multiple interests can strengthen rather than dilute one's impact. "I didn't go from fashion to gardening to being a humanitarian," Finley explains. "As a gardener, I was already a humanitarian. When I'm designing, I'm still a gardener. I'm still creative. This is about freedom. It's all already within us."
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The Three Scripts That Limit Our Potential
Our lives are constrained by three cognitive scripts that quietly dictate our choices:
1. The Sequel Script : We feel compelled to make decisions that conform with our past behaviors, creating artificial limits through what psychologists call "continuation bias" and what Le Cunff terms the "self-consistency fallacy." If the next logical step after business school is joining a consulting company, starting your own firm might feel like too much of a departure. This script makes us rehash old tales rather than facing the discomfort of a blank page.
2. The Crowdpleaser Script : We adjust our decisions to meet others' expectations, driven by fear of social exclusion or guilt about diverging from conventional paths. Neuroimaging shows that the same brain region handling conflict activates when our choices differ from the group's. This script leads us to pursue socially sanctioned success rather than following our authentic curiosity.
3. The Epic Script : We chase grand narratives like "follow your passion" or "find your purpose." This script creates the illusion that we should have a single overarching purpose, and that pursuing it will automatically lead to success. Research shows mantras like "find your passion" actually increase the likelihood of giving up when inevitable challenges arise.
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Field Notes: Becoming The Anthropologist Of Your Life
Instead of trying to discover one predetermined purpose, approach your life like an anthropologist conducting fieldwork. For just one day, create a note on your phone called "Field Notes" and record observations about your experiences:
1. Capture in real-time : Throughout the day, jot down brief notes with timestamps whenever something crosses your mind—inspiring articles, thought-provoking conversations, ideas that come to you on the train, or feelings before an important presentation.
2. Focus on categories like :
- Insights: Moments of curiosity, random thoughts, and questions that spark interest
- Energy: Shifts in energy levels and what gives or drains your energy
- Mood: Emotions during or after specific experiences
- Encounters: Social interactions and insights from connections
3. Analyze patterns : After 24 hours, review your notes to identify recurring themes and feelings. Look for what gives you joy, what drains you, what you want more or less of. Pay attention to invisible gaps and "curiosity attractors"—areas where you feel a yearning toward something different.
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The Power Of A Pact
A pact is a pledge to engage in a particular activity for a predetermined period of time. It follows a simple format: "I will [action] for [duration]."
What makes a pact effective is that it focuses on outputs (e.g., "publish 25 newsletters over 25 weeks") rather than outcomes (e.g., "get 5,000 newsletter subscribers in 25 weeks"). It gives you confidence to start because there's no wrong choice—you simply need to show up.
An effective pact has four key characteristics:
1. Purposeful : Though freed from fixating on outcomes, a pact should feel exciting and provide meaning through the learning journey itself.
2. Actionable : Based on actions you can reliably perform with current resources, enabling immediate action rather than endless planning.
3. Continuous : Built around simple, repeatable actions to collect consistent data (e.g., something you do daily, weekly, or on weekends).
4. Trackable : Measured with a binary question—Have you done it or not?—making progress monitoring straightforward.
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How Repeated Trials Build Confidence And Skills
Khe Hy, who left Wall Street after fifteen years to become an internet creator, committed to trying experiments for specific durations: "I'm going to try Snapchat for a month and see what happens, or I'm going to try a podcast for fifty-two weeks."
Committing in advance to a specific duration has a crucial advantage: it forces you to wait until after a pre-agreed number of iterations before making a decision. This makes you less likely to abandon your pact because of one particularly challenging week.
Repeated trials are essential for building both skills and confidence. The "serial-order effect," considered "one of the oldest and most robust findings in modern creativity work," shows that later responses to a creative problem are typically better than earlier ones. This principle applies not just to short-term tasks but to creativity throughout life—contrary to startup mythology glorifying youth, founders in their fifties are almost twice as likely to reach a successful exit as those in their thirties.
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Start Small To Make Big Progress
When Corin Delgay's scented candles business failed, he learned he didn't enjoy running numbers and balance sheets. Yet throughout this venture, people had praised his creative thinking. Delgay decided to explore his artistic side with a tiny experiment: "I said, let me paint twenty paintings without trying to create a masterpiece."
The first paintings were far from perfect, but he remained committed to his daily practice, using online tutorials to refine each version. "I was just looking for mistakes to learn from," he explained. "It came from a place of no ego and the confidence that I would get better over time."
After only three weeks, he organized an event where he sold five paintings. Today, his gallery in Barcelona is thriving, with art aficionados visiting from around the world. And Delgay still paints daily, often in public at the gallery or live events. "Once you have this positive momentum, it doesn't feel like work," he says.
His example illustrates the importance of starting with the smallest possible version of your experiment—especially when choosing between two versions of a pact.
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The Productivity Obsession
Modern culture's obsession with productivity creates a toxic relationship with time. Le Cunff describes interviewing numerous "recovering productivity junkies" who shared similar stories—engineers, startup founders, educators, nurses, and executives who had pushed themselves to burnout through relentless execution.
This pressure to maximize productivity stems from multiple sources. Culturally, being productive is seen as a moral imperative; as management theorist Peter Drucker noted, "On [productivity] rest all of the economic and social gains of the 20th century." Growing up with role models who highly value productivity—praising grades over effort, obsessing over learning new skills, packing activities into weekends—can cause us to internalize this mindset.
Major life transitions can also trigger productivity mania as we seek control during uncertain times. One community member described meticulously logging even his limited leisure time on spreadsheets after starting a high-stress startup job. For neurodivergent individuals, productivity can become a fixation, leading to endless research of tools and techniques that paradoxically become distractions from actual work.
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Chronos Versus Kairos: Two Ways To Experience Time
The ancient Greeks had two distinct words for time that reveal profoundly different ways of experiencing it:
1. Chronos : The quantitative, mechanical time of clocks and calendars. It's depicted as identical units marching inexorably forward, creating a sense of scarcity and urgency. The image "Your Life in Weeks" exemplifies this view—showing life as identical boxes that will eventually run out.
2. Kairos : The qualitative, fluid experience of time. It recognizes that some moments carry special weight or potential. Le Cunff likens Kairos moments to what she calls "magic windows"—periods of flow that occur when we're immersed in captivating activities, connecting with loved ones, or engaged in self-reflection.
While Chronos rules most of our modern existence, our actual experience is more like Kairos. Research confirms that our perception of time is elastic—emotional experiences, physiology, cognitive engagement, and even cultural factors all influence how time feels to us. The week you submitted an important proposal likely felt much longer than a typical week, while time seems to speed up as we age.
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Mindful Productivity: Managing Your Resources
Instead of managing time (a Chronos approach), mindful productivity focuses on managing three interrelated resources:
1. Physical Resources: Managing Energy - Honor your chronotype (morning lark, night owl, or "third bird")
- Track energy levels throughout the day to identify your personal peaks and valleys
- Schedule demanding tasks during your natural energy peaks
- Respect biological rhythms including daily cycles, hormonal shifts, and seasonal changes
2. Cognitive Resources: Managing Executive Function - Recognize limits to attention and working memory
- Practice sequential focus (one thing at a time) to work with cognitive bottlenecks
- Consider your environment when choosing tasks
- Close unnecessary apps and eliminate distractions during focused work
3. Emotional Resources: Managing Emotions - Distinguish between eustress (positive stress) and distress (harmful stress)
- Notice when stress accumulates to a critical point
- Use conscious movement to stimulate your parasympathetic nervous system
- Develop emotional agility to navigate your emotional landscape
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Creating A Kairos Ritual
To shift from Chronos (mechanical time) to Kairos (qualitative time) when life demands productivity, develop a personal Kairos ritual—a simple practice that helps you open a magic window for focused work:
1. Choose a simple, repeatable action that can quickly shift your state of being:
- Agathe Cury sits in a corner of the room and does a quick breathing exercise
- François Singer walks slowly in circles or briefly lies down
- Anaïs Ait Ouazzou listens to mood-boosting music
- Manuela Da Cunha goes to another room, closes the door, and takes deep breaths
- Jem Chevillotte makes a cup of tea in a five-minute disconnect
2. Focus on practicality : Choose something you can easily do in your typical work environment
3. Make it personally meaningful : Select something you enjoy and look forward to
These rituals work by physically guiding you to pause and recalibrate energy, cognitively interrupting autopilot mode, and emotionally offering a sanctuary to acknowledge feelings and reconnect with yourself.
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The Two Arrows Of Procrastination
Procrastination involves two sources of suffering, similar to the Buddhist concept of the two arrows:
1. The First Arrow : The procrastination itself—scrolling instead of studying, watching TV instead of working, browsing shopping sites instead of writing.
2. The Second Arrow : Your emotional reaction to procrastinating—the anxiety, shame, and guilt that accompany the behavior. This second arrow is often more painful than the first.
Studies confirm that adverse psychological reactions like anxiety and shame typically accompany procrastination. As Dr. Tim Pychyl, a leading expert on procrastination, explains: "There is nothing like the downward spiral of procrastination to make you feel like an abject failure. That's why the strongest emotion associated with procrastination is guilt."
This emotional burden actually makes it harder to overcome procrastination. Instead of calm and confident, we feel deeply frustrated and at war with our sense of self. Changing this relationship starts with understanding that procrastination isn't a moral failure but a listening failure—a missed opportunity to receive important information.
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The Triple Check: Understanding Your Procrastination
When you find yourself procrastinating, perform a "Triple Check" by asking whether the issue is coming from your head, heart, or hand:
1. Head: "Is the task appropriate?" - Are you skeptical about the benefits of this task?
- For smaller tasks with no dependencies, simply remove them from your list
- For substantial tasks, write down why you think this approach isn't right
- Consider redefining your strategy based on these insights
2. Heart: "Is the task exciting?" - What feelings arise when you think about this task?
- Is there fear, boredom, irritation, or simply a lack of enjoyment?
- Free-write for ten minutes to explore your emotional response
- For strong negative feelings, consider pairing the task with something enjoyable
3. Hand: "Is the task doable?" - Do you have the skills, knowledge, and tools needed?
- Could you ask for help from a friend, colleague, or mentor?
- Consider taking a course or finding a coach for needed skills
- Beware of using "learning" as procrastination in disguise
When your head, heart, and hand are all in harmony—when a task feels appropriate, exciting, and doable—Le Cunff calls this "aligned aliveness." In this state, starting and continuing work becomes much easier.
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When It's The System, Not You
Amy, a registered nurse in North Carolina, felt intense shame about sometimes delaying giving scheduled medications while chatting with colleagues. Despite her genuine dedication to patient care and professional advancement (she earned her master's degree while working), she couldn't understand why she sometimes procrastinated on essential tasks.
What Amy failed to recognize was that her procrastination wasn't a personal failure but a systemic one. Over the years, the patient-to-nurse ratio had steadily increased. Then came the pandemic, flooding hospitals with urgent cases. A moment to chat with colleagues became her only chance to regain equilibrium in an overwhelming environment.
The breaking point came after losing a patient during the pandemic partly due to being stretched too thin. Only then did Amy and her colleagues realize: "This isn't a personal failure, it's a systemic failure." The workplace culture had already celebrated nurses who pushed themselves to the brink with more responsibilities and longer hours, while taking time off was frowned upon.
After this realization, Amy reevaluated how the system impacted her mental health and left her hospital job for an administrative position. By the time she departed, she had accumulated 300 hours of unused paid time off.
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The Myth Of Perfect Balance
"I don't know what I want to do when they graduated. What people are doing now is usually not something that they'd even heard of in undergrad. One of my friends is a marine biologist and works at an aquarium. Another is in grad school for epidemiology. I'm in cinematography. None of us knew any of these jobs even existed when we graduated."
Shonda Rhimes
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Sweet And Sour: The Italian Approach To Excellence
Italy offers a powerful model for intentional imperfection through what philosophers Gloria Origgi and Diego Gambetta call the "sweet and sour" approach to life:
The Sweet: Italy is renowned for the dolce vita ("the sweet life"), embracing life's simplest joys from leisurely strolls to intimate conversations, savoring every moment.
The Sour: Italy's postal service is notoriously unreliable, bureaucracy can be maddening, and some systems seem chaotic to outsiders.
The Excellence: Despite apparent contradictions, Italy achieves world-class excellence in targeted domains—automobiles, fashion, healthcare, and wine production all reflect technical mastery and artistic flair.
This approach reflects a philosophy articulated by 16th-century Italian philosopher Lucilio Vanini, who asserted that "the greatest perfection lies in imperfection." For Vanini, true perfection isn't a static, finished state but allows for evolution and interpretation—like a painting that leaves room for the viewer's imagination.
By embracing this duality—accepting that both sweet and sour experiences are necessary for a rich, flavorful life—we develop greater psychological resilience and mental well-being.
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Strategic Mediocrity For Long-Term Excellence
Ben Trosky, a highly successful bond manager whose fund ranked #1 for the ten years he managed it, revealed his counterintuitive strategy: he consciously avoided striving for his fund to be the top performer in any single year.
Why? Because those who reached that top spot usually got there through reckless tactics. They took extreme risks, and even if they got lucky one year, their success was often short-lived. Knowing that short-term results can be deceiving, Trosky instead aimed to place in the top 10 percent over ten years, taking small, consistent actions that carefully balanced risk and reward.
Trosky calls this approach "strategic mediocrity"—the idea that you can achieve excellence over the long term by intentionally not trying to be the absolute best in every instance. This principle applies beyond investing: when we try to excel simultaneously across all areas of life, we risk burning out. Like investors who risk everything for short-term gains, we risk our mental health in the relentless pursuit of perfection.
To remain in the top decile over the long run requires being strategic about where to invest your energy—sacrificing the thrill of short-term rewards for the serenity of sustainable success.
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Trial And Error: Nature's Growth Strategy
Marathon champion Eliud Kipchoge keeps a detailed diary tracking not just his physical training but his mental state, environment, and even his shoes' performance. This meticulous attention to both trials (actions) and feedback (results) exemplifies why trial and error is essential for growth.
As Nassim Taleb notes, in complex systems with limited visibility of cause-and-effect chains, trial and error beats linear approaches designed for specific targets. This iterative model mirrors nature itself, which adapts through cycles of experimentation responding to environmental feedback.
Polina Marinova Pompliano, founder of The Profile, applies this approach to her work: "Every year, I sit down and review the feedback, both qualitative and quantitative. I reflect and notice: that's interesting, this is what people like... It's important to bake in moments of reflection."
Trial and error are inseparable—without trying, we can't learn from mistakes, but without reflection, we'd simply repeat errors endlessly. Growth emerges from this dialogue between action and observation, where our aspirations become fuel for transformation rather than fixed destinations. We don't go in circles; we grow in circles.
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Metacognition: The Forgotten Secret To Success
Metacognition—thinking about your thinking—is the crucial yet often neglected skill that transforms trial and error into genuine growth. While introspection simply involves noticing thoughts and emotions, metacognition adds an analytical layer, functioning like an inner coach who observes your performance and suggests better strategies.
This skill ensures your choices aren't made in a vacuum but in conversation with both your inner self and the wider world. It helps you:
• Parse what you've accomplished with clear eyes
• Assess what worked and what didn't
• Understand how you really feel about the experience
• Appreciate your current position and potential next steps
Our ancestors had natural pauses for metacognition built into their days—long walks, repetitive tasks like sewing, or evening reflection. In contrast, our constant flood of information leaves little space for thinking about thinking. Research shows that without metacognition, we often remain unaware of factors influencing our choices, making it difficult to improve through experience.
Barbara Oakley exemplifies the power of metacognition. Once math-averse, she developed strategic approaches to learning after joining the army and recognizing the importance of technical skills. Her metacognitive strategies—balancing intense concentration with mental relaxation—transformed her into an engineering professor whose course "Learning How to Learn" has reached millions worldwide.
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Plus Minus Next: A Simple Metacognitive Tool
The Plus Minus Next tool transforms metacognition from abstract concept to practical weekly habit using three simple columns:
1. Plus : Record what went well—accomplishments, moments of joy, positive feedback, or things you're grateful for. Include both professional successes and personal victories.
2. Minus : Note challenges, obstacles, setbacks, misunderstandings, or neglected areas. Track when you strayed from healthy habits or experienced persistent negative emotions.
3. Next : Use insights from both previous columns to shape your upcoming actions. Consider how to foster more positive experiences while constructively addressing negative ones.
Nothing more is needed—no perfect format, no complex prioritization. Just spend five minutes weekly recording a few bullet points in each column. The technique works because it's:
• Fast: Should take no more than five minutes
• Flexible: No rigid categorization between personal and professional life
• Future-focused: Emphasizes forward movement rather than dwelling on failures
This simple practice helps you celebrate accomplishments, learn from challenges, and adapt your approach—all crucial components for building growth loops rather than endlessly climbing ladders.
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The Crossroads After A Completed Experiment
After completing a pact or experiment, you face a key decision about your next move. Despite cultural pressure to constantly escalate commitments, there are three viable routes:
1. Persist : Continue with your current experiment if it's going well. Though often dismissed as "coasting," maintaining momentum on a fulfilling path can be a bold assertion of your values in a culture that demands constant escalation. Bill Watterson (Calvin and Hobbes creator) and Maria Popova (The Marginalian) exemplify how persistence with quality work can be more impactful than constant expansion.
2. Pause : Temporarily or permanently stop your experiment. This isn't failure but strategic adaptation. The stigma against quitting often keeps us tethered to projects draining our resources due to the sunk cost fallacy. As entrepreneur Seth Godin notes: "Quitting the projects that don't go anywhere is essential if you want to stick out the right ones."
3. Pivot : Make adjustments to your current experiment. When the core interest remains valuable but circumstances change, modifying your approach allows continued growth. This might mean decreasing or increasing scope, changing formats, or adjusting frequency.
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The Perils Of Narrowing When Uncertainty Calls For Broadening
On September 8, 1923, Captain Edward Watson and Lieutenant Commander Donald Hunter were navigating warships off California's coast in thick fog. Following dead reckoning (estimating position based on previous location and speed), they were about to turn into the Santa Barbara Channel when they received a radio signal indicating their location was completely different than calculated.
"Impossible bearing!" Hunter shouted, rejecting this new information. Rather than slowing down to take additional measurements—which would have required abandoning their predefined success parameters of maintaining maximum speed—they pressed forward. The USS Delphy ran aground, followed by six other ships in a disastrous procession. Twenty-three sailors died in what became known as the Honda Point disaster.
Professor Paul Saffo of Stanford University identified the critical lesson: "The real lesson here is, about uncertainty, when the Delphy skipper hit the rocks... it happened because he narrowed his cone of uncertainty at the very moment that the data was screaming to widen it."
This case dramatically illustrates how clinging to original plans despite conflicting information can lead to catastrophe. While persistence is sometimes appropriate, equal consideration should be given to pausing or pivoting when new data suggests your current path may be hazardous.
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The Steering Sheet: Broadening The Decision Frame
Traditional decision-making tools like pros-and-cons lists often fail because they use what researchers call a "narrow decision frame" that overemphasizes either external or internal factors. To make better decisions about whether to persist, pause, or pivot, use a Steering Sheet to capture a fuller picture:
1. External signals : These include facts, contextual information, and practical limitations. Ask:
- How does your pact fit with current circumstances?
- Is it manageable or conflicting with other commitments?
- Are there other demands on your emotional energy?
- Has anything changed in the external environment?
2. Internal signals : These include emotions, motivations, and mental states. Ask:
- How do you feel about your pact now?
- Is it still fulfilling or has it become a source of tension?
- What is your level of self-confidence?
- What other beliefs and feelings arise when you think about your pact?
By explicitly considering both external and internal signals, you broaden your decision frame, creating a more complete picture that leads to better-informed choices. This approach recognizes that decisions aren't just rational calculations but also emotional assessments of what feels right for your current stage.
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The Farmer's Maybe: A Lesson In Judgment Suspension
An ancient Chinese parable tells of a farmer whose horse ran away. When neighbors offered condolences for his "terrible fortune," he simply replied, "Maybe." The next day, his horse returned with seven wild horses. The neighbors exclaimed, "What great luck!" Again, the farmer responded, "Maybe." When the farmer's son broke his leg trying to tame one of the wild horses, the neighbors called it "bad luck." The farmer said, "Maybe." Then military officers came to draft young men for war but left the son behind due to his injury. The neighbors shouted, "Isn't that fantastic!" The farmer answered, "Maybe."
This parable illustrates the wisdom of suspending judgment about life's disruptions. Former software developer Michael Singer embodied this approach after experiencing his own series of unexpected events. When investigated by the FBI and forced to resign as CEO of the company he founded (though ultimately cleared of wrongdoing), Singer maintained his equanimity, accepting outcomes without bitterness.
The story demonstrates how refusing to immediately label events as good or bad creates space for possibility. What initially seems disastrous may contain hidden benefits, while apparent windfalls might carry unforeseen complications. This attitude doesn't mean abandoning hope, but rather cultivating nimble resilience in the face of life's inevitable uncertainties.
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The Science Of Disruption
Disruptions are fundamentally different from everyday surprises. The Latin root disruptus means "to separate forcibly, to break apart"—creating a jarring gap between expectations and reality that feels painful because it forces adaptation.
The stress caused by disruptions varies based on how much they compel change. Even positive events like weddings can be disruptive because they dramatically alter routines. When disruptions interfere with important projects, they feel like direct attacks on our identity and place in the world.
Research shows these effects can be profound: disruptive life events are associated with both anxiety and depression, with a growing number of psychologists believing they play a more significant role in mental illness development than genetics.
Ancient wisdom traditions have long advocated healthy forms of letting go. Buddhism teaches that suffering arises from attachment to desires, including the desire for control. Taoism promotes wu wei (effortless action), while Hindu philosophy values vairagya (detachment for tranquility). Modern research confirms these approaches, showing that constantly fighting life's challenges leads to chronic stress, while the ability to fluidly adapt to change is a hallmark of psychological well-being.
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The Two-Step Reset: Dancing With Disruption
When facing disruption, follow this two-step process to regain your footing:
Step One: Processing the Subjective Experience
1. Pause and lean into your emotions rather than suppressing them
2. Notice physical responses: rapid heart rate, clenched jaw, shallow breathing, etc.
3. Use affective labeling—simply name what you're feeling (e.g., tense, worried, nervous)
4. Write down these emotions in a journal or notes app, or record them as voice memos
5. If you struggle identifying emotions, use landscape metaphors (e.g., "My feeling is like a vast, lonely ocean")
Step Two: Managing the Objective Consequences
1. Identify the direct impact of the disruption
2. Map out potential consequence cascades—how effects might spread
3. Evaluate each consequence: Is it significant? Positive, negative, or neutral?
4. Determine whether each consequence requires action or will resolve itself
5. Make focused decisions about which issues need addressing
If new feelings emerge while mapping consequences, return to Step One and label those emotions. Repeat this two-step process as needed, always erring on the side of acceptance rather than control. The goal isn't to create an illusion of control but to de-escalate consequences so you can move forward rather than give up.
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The Power Of Social Flow
While we're familiar with the concept of flow states—those moments of complete focus and engagement—most attention has centered on solitary activities. Yet research reveals a surprising truth: flow states happen more easily in group activities than individual ones.
Studies show chamber musicians report being "in the zone" more frequently during small group performances than solo practice. Athletes in team sports like rowing and football experience personal flow more readily during collaborative play. Beyond increased focus, the shared experience makes the state more pleasurable.
This "social flow" explains why influential artists, philosophers, and scientists throughout history participated in vibrant "scenes" where ideas were exchanged. Impressionist painters gathered in Paris cafés to discuss artistic techniques. Vienna's salons gave Freud insights that shaped psychoanalysis. The Algonquin Round Table in New York brought together writers whose exchanges influenced American literature. The Bloomsbury Group in London connected Virginia Woolf with peers like John Maynard Keynes and E.M. Forster.
When surrounded by people who encourage experimentation and growth, you unlock creative territories inaccessible alone. Your ideas become woven into narratives others want to join, enhancing both the journey and destination.
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The Three Community Effects
Communities offer three powerful effects that make them uniquely valuable beyond their members' status or influence:
1. The Pooling Effect : Communities give you access to collective knowledge, skills, and resources far exceeding your own. Through what psychologists call "transactive memory," you develop understanding of who knows what, leveraging group expertise to progress more efficiently. This allows you to focus on your strengths while others fill knowledge gaps.
2. The Ripple Effect : Communities create unexpected opportunities beyond your initial goals. You might join for specific benefits but discover connections that open entirely new paths. A writer might meet a developer and start a profitable startup; a student might connect with an industry veteran who becomes their mentor. These interactions are especially likely in "communities of practice"—groups genuinely committed to learning from each other about shared interests.
3. The Safety Effect : Communities provide critical support during difficulties. Members can connect you with job opportunities after a layoff, offer advisor referrals for legal issues, or provide financial help during emergencies. Beyond practical assistance, communities offer emotional support that helps you stay resilient when facing personal or professional challenges.
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Building A Curiosity Circle
To create your own thriving community centered around genuine connection and learning, follow these principles for building a "curiosity circle":
1. Start scrappy : Begin with the smallest possible version using available resources. When meditation practitioner Ankit Shah wanted to connect with others, he simply invited a few people to his living room with cushions and candles rather than building a formal organization.
2. Be up front : Acknowledge the experimental nature of your community. Research shows deeper relationships form through vulnerability. When Lukas Rosenstock hosted his first after-work gathering, he openly mentioned "I got the idea from a book and it's an experiment," encouraging others to be equally open.
3. Don't overthink it : Take action rather than getting stuck in planning. When Carl Martin wanted to connect with other fathers in his new town, he posted a simple notice: "Men of Folkestone, how would you like a space to meet other lads and dads?" Over twenty people attended the first meetup, which has now grown to over a hundred members.
4. Make it cozy : Foster psychological safety where members feel they can speak without judgment. Provide signposts about what to expect, potential conversation topics, and available facilities to create ambient belonging.
5. Don't hold the reins too tight : Allow for distributed leadership where responsibilities are shared. Community builder Rosie Sherry advises: "It's our responsibility to lift members up and show people they have good ideas." Encourage autonomy and leave space for unplanned activities and connections to emerge.
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The Polymath Project: The Power Of Open Exploration
In 2009, mathematician Tim Gowers (a Fields Medal recipient—the highest honor in mathematics) used his blog to run a radical experiment. Rather than struggling alone with a difficult problem, he invited readers to contribute ideas through comments.
This approach represented a dramatic departure from traditional mathematical research, which typically involves solitary effort followed by publication only after a solution is found. In contrast, Gowers shared his thought process publicly, exposing his uncertainty and inviting collaboration.
The results were extraordinary: within a month, 27 mathematicians submitted more than 800 comments. Just 37 days after launching, Gowers announced they had not only solved the original problem but also a harder one that included the original as a special case. "This has been one of the most exciting six weeks of my mathematical life," he declared.
The Polymath Project exemplifies how learning in public—sharing the messy process of exploration and inviting others to join—can dramatically accelerate progress. Rather than hoarding partial insights until they're polished (as Galileo did in 1610 by sharing his Saturn discovery in coded anagrams), Gowers created a transparent cycle of collective discovery that allowed embryonic ideas to become fully formed through collaboration.
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The Three Public Pillars
To effectively learn in public, implement these three pillars:
1. Make a Public Pledge - Define who you'll share your learning journey with—colleagues, community members, or broader audience
- Consider the benefits of different groups: intimate circles offer depth but can become echo chambers; broader communities provide diverse perspectives but less safety
- Select supportive team players who can offer constructive feedback with empathy
- Publicly announce your experiment and commitment to document the entire process
2. Choose a Platform - Select a platform that aligns with your project's nature and feels comfortable to navigate
- Avoid new tools requiring deciphering opaque norms while attempting your pact
- Focus on one primary platform rather than spreading yourself thin
- Start with something simple like an online document, group chat, or short newsletter
3. Practice and Iterate - Begin with smaller, confidence-building shares before moving to more ambitious work-in-progress projects
- Document what you learn and tweak your approach based on feedback
- Expand your sharing gradually—from personal notes to more detailed documentation or demonstrations
- Embrace radical transparency by sharing both triumphs and struggles
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Addressing The Fear Of Learning In Public
Learning in public requires overcoming several significant fears that can stop us from experimenting with this approach:
"I don't know enough."
Remember that "expertise" is a mirage—the closer you get, the more illusory it seems. Even experienced professionals feel vulnerable sharing their process. The point of learning in public is gaining expertise through sharing the journey, not pretending to know everything. As entrepreneur Arvid Kahl says, "Everybody has knowledge they didn't have a couple of weeks or years ago. You're always a little ahead of someone else, which means sharing could be helpful to at least one person."
"People might judge me."
This fear is evolutionarily ingrained—for our ancestors, negative social evaluation threatened survival. From autonomic nervous system responses (increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure) to the real possibility of public mistakes, this fear is both physical and rational. The solution is gradual exposure through small experiments, just as public speaking anxiety diminishes through practice or "putting in the reps." Each experience becomes progressively easier until fear becomes a manageable companion rather than a controlling force.
"It might be a distraction" or "impact my professional reputation."
When learning in public is integrated into your existing work rather than added on top, it enhances rather than detracts from productivity. For those concerned about professional reputation, starting with a trusted small group allows exploration before wider sharing. As developmental psychologist Kristyn Sommer notes: "There is no need to be afraid as long as you show the world you are ready to be proven wrong when presented with new evidence."
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Ben Tossell's Squiggly Path To Impact
Ben Tossell's career defies traditional narratives while demonstrating how curiosity-led paths can create remarkable impact. His journey began with failed attempts selling a mobile app to London pubs, followed by creating social media ads and working at his father's law firm.
Everything changed when he discovered Product Hunt, the launch platform for tech products. Fascinated by the community, he began volunteering to transcribe maker interviews and publicize member projects: "I just wanted to talk about ideas and chat with people, to be helpful and connect with others who were building stuff." This unpaid contribution led to employment at Product Hunt, where he engaged their European audience while experimenting with side projects.
Learning about no-code tools, Tossell created Makerpad to teach others how to build digital products without coding knowledge. The platform grew rapidly, eventually being acquired by Zapier (valued at $5 billion). When ChatGPT sparked massive interest in AI, Tossell saw another opportunity to contribute meaningfully. He launched Ben's Bites, a newsletter about AI that reached over 100,000 subscribers in its first year.
What connects these ventures isn't a predefined career plan but a consistent approach: following curiosity, surrounding himself with interesting people, and creating value by making complex topics accessible. "How can I learn from everybody? How do I get in the room with these people? How can I play a small part here in doing something that could be helpful to people?"
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From Legacy To Generativity
Most people want meaningful lives, but often search for meaning through professional achievements, academic accolades, or material possessions—pursuing a "legacy" that proves their life mattered. Yet for someone on an experimental, nonlinear path, this mindset can be self-defeating for three reasons:
Legacy is the most extreme end game, happening after your life ends
Legacy makes you prioritize others' standards over your own authentic values
Legacy steers you toward scale-based impact rather than depth of connection
Instead, focus on generativity—a psychological principle coined by Erik Erikson that emphasizes using personal growth to positively impact others in the present. As investor Patrick O'Shaughnessy writes: "The best long-term fuel source is some repeated act that energizes you in a way that then lets you become a generative person, who uses the energy to make things for others."
Unlike legacy's fixation on leaving an outsized mark, generativity is found in everyday interactions—mentorship offered to colleagues, knowledge shared in communities, or support given to local initiatives. These seemingly modest actions create immediate positive impact, directly enriching lives. When generativity becomes your focus, your actions' immediate impact provides all the motivation needed.
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The Five Keys For Generative Adventures
To unlock a generative life where your path can zigzag while creating meaningful impact, use these five keys:
1. Do the Work First : Instead of waiting for permission or credentials, create tangible proof of your abilities. This increases your "surface area of luck" by demonstrating problem-solving skills and showcasing knowledge. Examples include organizing events if interested in event planning, building apps if exploring software engineering, or creating recipes if aspiring to be a chef.
2. Grow Lateral Roots : Expand skills horizontally rather than just vertically in one domain. Like a plant's lateral roots accessing wider resources, interdisciplinary knowledge helps you thrive in evolving environments. Take on side projects outside your core expertise, attend conferences on unfamiliar topics, and seek unlikely mentors.
3. Prioritize Impact Over Image : Resist pressure to maintain a consistent personal brand. As editor Farrah Storr puts it, "You're not a commodity. You're a constantly shifting human being with complex emotions, needs, and interests." Let your career evolve with your curiosity to discover new ways of creating value.
4. Close the Loop to Open Doors : Build trust by consistently completing what you start and reflecting on lessons learned, even when outcomes differ from expectations. Share these insights to help others navigate similar challenges, turning even failures into generative contributions.
5. Play Along the Way : Cultivate playfulness alongside professionalism. Framing experiments as "just for fun" reduces pressure and often leads to unexpected value. As entrepreneur Josh Pigford, who has launched dozens of ventures, says: "I'll choose to shut something down if I'm not having fun anymore."
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